I like to ski. I do a little coaching and instructing and allot of learning. The more I learn about skiing the more I realize it it less about strained effort and more about relaxed, quiet precision. I think you can say the same thing about leadership. Good leaders are relaxed, supple - ready to absorb and extend - adjust whenever necessary. They are quiet - aware and listening more than shouting and flailing. They are precise - they don't drive - they adjust and intervene when necessary.
Relaxed, quiet precision makes a good skier and an even better leader.