Everyone has a reason, probably a very good reason. We just haven’t taken the time to ask for or consider it.
We have ignored our responsibilities and consider them to be the problem. We find fault with what they have done or are doing and look for opportunities for blame and evidence of their ineptitudes.
Instead, take responsibility, look for similarity, understand underlying cause and effect, ask why over and over until deeply understood, and then seek alignment and synergy, mutual education and understanding.
Forget pointing at they and them. Point at you.